Fling sting

An article about improving the odds for a one-night stand was likely to anger some people. But my original article resulted in more vicious name-calling than I expected. Amusing. My stance was (and will continue to be) that the one-night stand can be a great thing.

Why? Any rational human being would be hard-pressed to argue that safe sex between two consenting adults without the transmission of a disease or the creation of a baby is wrong. The women who were most angered by what I wrote were most likely scorned. The men most likely wanted to sound more appealing to women. If you aren’t into “hooking up” or only go to bars to hang out with friends, then this article doesn’t even apply. If you fall into that category and left a nasty comment, sit back, relax and enjoy your life. You’re the critic who doesn’t count.

No matter who you are, with or without a relationship, eventually you’ll want to have sex. I didn’t create this situation. I merely presented a scenario that accelerated the process.

In a large city, occasional one-night stands make more sense than attempting to achieve eternal bliss with a partner every time. A place like Chicago will always attract single people who want to meet other people. With so many things to do (most of which involve alcohol), there’s a lot of potential for good times and bad decisions. Sustaining a relationship with a steady partner requires time, energy and resources, but the choice to meet someone and have sex only requires one night of your time. There is no shame in improving your odds of achieving the latter.

Perhaps my explanation of how I handle the morning after was misconstrued. But if there is no future, it’s natural to want the other to leave as soon as possible. Why? Embarrassing encounters with roommates, possibility of stolen property, and a terrible night of sleep are all negative externalities after exchanging orgasms. The “U-Turn” I mentioned isn’t something I invented. Use it, develop your own, I don’t care. However, I do recommend making your exit as painless as possible.

In a city with countless singles, numerous bars, and a weekly magazine with a cover story about summer flings, it should be no surprise that there are men and women who feel the same way I do. What’s more surprising is that some people would take such offense to a guy just telling it like it is.

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